Happiness

I once had a conversation with someone about happiness and they said all they ever wanted was true happiness. It is true many people in this life are unhappy or feel less happiness than they want to have in their life. As children we grow up wanting certain things in life when we older but never really take into account what is obtainable and what is not. Being realistic is not being part of childhood instead fantasy and wishing consumes our unrealistic dreams of the future. Having dreams and aspirations are a huge part of the foundation that we stem from but as we get older and only achieve a partial amount of what our end goal was, even when we see how unrealistic is may have been, we feel a lack of accomplishment. For example, many girls wish to have the expensive princess wedding and both boys and girls want to become rich or have a hot model partner or have a top career but in realistic terms we may not ever have the exact thing we envision but instead get a beautiful wedding within our budget, may have a good paying job, a sweet, caring partner and a high level position in our career. Very few of us live the “rags to riches” and have all we ever wanted and so this lack of achievement makes us feel a bit sad and causes us to believe we would be happier if we had more. I am sure many of us would be very happy with a million dollars, there is so much we could do and our financial stress would not be as high as it currently is or having a top position profession could be very rewarding but we don’t look the whole picture. Do you believe you would truly be happier with than then you are now? You may say yes now and may be you would be happier but if we took into account the changes in our lives with the all the “extra” money and responsibility. We would have to spend more time at work and less time with our families and less time for ourselves. According to research, many people who have these things are still asking themselves how I can find happiness. And why you ask... if they have a good job and money why not be happy? Because we are human and humans are always looking for more to life, another challenge and another benefit. Childhood consists of fantasy and make-believe but as we get older we still feel the same way but on a different level. We still want a better job, more money, a better or different partner or marriage. We are never satisfied because we want more. It’s embedded in us to always want more. It’s not that what we have isn’t good enough we just want more something better. It is like the saying “the grass is always greener on the other side.” Let’s take into account what we have now, a job that pays money, a partner who is good to you and cares for you, food to eat and children to love and play with and house you can call home. You don’t realize it now but you have achieved so much happiness that you are missing out on some of that wishing for more things that may never come. I always had a dream of being well off and having a big family and a good job too and some days I really wish I had more of those things but other times I look at my life and realize I have so much good right now and it brings me happiness every day. And you might not realize it but you do too!